Episode 230: How To Expand Your Sex life, Try Alternative Relationship Styles, And Practice Ethical Non-Monogamy, with Hayley Folk



Contrary to what we’re taught our whole lives, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? Today’s episode is an open and vulnerable conversation with Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure. 

It’s especially important during Pride Month to de-stigmatize sex and sexuality, eradicate judgment, and create safe communities to explore pleasure and identity. So we’re diving deep into ethical non-monogamy, kink, sexual health, boundaries, consent, dating apps, and how to communicate what you want with honesty.

I chat with Hayley Folk, a sex writer whose work has appeared in magazines like Cosmopolitan, Refinery29, Elite Daily, and more. She’s the founder of Naked Folk, a publication and podcast that covers the uncomfortable conversations we should be having about sex and relationships. 

Trigger warning: After the first hour, we talk about the impact of nonconsensual sex and assault. If this is something you’d like to avoid, you can stop listening after the 1 hour mark. 

Tune in to hear more about:

  • Ethical non-monogamy 101: Polyamory, open relationships, swinging and more

  • Hayley’s journey coming out as queer

  • Boundaries and communication for healthy non-monogamous relationships

  • Meeting other couples, unicorns, or open partners on apps or play parties

  • The “one penis policy”

  • Dealing with jealousy and storytelling

  • How to get comfortable with dirty talk

  • Consuming ethical porn

  • Demystifying BDSM and the kink community

  • Physical VS verbal kinks

  • The importance of aftercare

  • Navigating sexual incompatibility

  • Consent, respect, and sexual health education

I hope you learn something new about yourself or the spectrum of sexuality from this convo! 

Follow Hayley:

https://www.instagram.com/hayley.folk/?hl=en

https://www.nakedfolk.com

https://www.instagram.com/nakedfolk/?hl=en

Our show is produced by:

  • Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor

  • Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer

  • Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer

  • Sara Valentine, Content Producer

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