If you’re nearing (or in) your 30s, you might’ve noticed a new phenomenon taking over your girls’ night convos, your office, and your Instagram feeds. It seems like everyone is suddenly getting pregnant, trying to get pregnant, or worried about whether they’ll be able to get pregnant when they’re ready.

Even with all of the books, classes and advice, nothing can truly prepare you for the changes that come with motherhood. Those first postpartum months are overwhelming and joyous and exhausting and confusing and affirming, and most of the time we look back and wonder how it could have gone by so quickly. It’s a vulnerable time that can leave a lot of women feeling isolated.

If you’re starting to think about having a bébé, or newly expecting (congrats!), it’s totally normal for a laundry list of Qs — like, WTF IS THIS GOING TO FEEL LIKE!? — to start building up. The unknowns can feel daunting, and there are so many aspects of pregnancy that still aren’t openly talked about. Like the whole nipple situation.

Luckily for us, Cailyn tried out pregnancy for nine whole months, all so that we may benefit from her experiences and advice. Buckle up, because our resident mama is here to spill the tea on everything she learned during pregnancy.