Even with all of the books, classes and advice, nothing can truly prepare you for the changes that come with motherhood. Those first postpartum months are overwhelming and joyous and exhausting and confusing and affirming, and most of the time we look back and wonder how it could have gone by so quickly. It’s a vulnerable time that can leave a lot of women feeling isolated.

Unlike labour, this week’s Asking For A Friend episode is a quickie and we’re getting real on giving birth! From birth plans to hospital bags, labour pains to pelvic floor prep, we’ve got TMHTA’s resident mom, Cailyn, in the hot seat to get all the juicy details on the highs and lows of creating life.

If you’re starting to think about having a bébé, or newly expecting (congrats!), it’s totally normal for a laundry list of Qs — like, WTF IS THIS GOING TO FEEL LIKE!? — to start building up. The unknowns can feel daunting, and there are so many aspects of pregnancy that still aren’t openly talked about. Like the whole nipple situation.

Luckily for us, Cailyn tried out pregnancy for nine whole months, all so that we may benefit from her experiences and advice. Buckle up, because our resident mama is here to spill the tea on everything she learned during pregnancy.