The Quickie: Why You Need Friends Who Are In Your Life Stage, And How To Navigate The Splinter Era

Welcome to the first episode of our new series “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I deep dive on the struggles and fuck-ups I’ve been facing lately, because let’s be honest, sometimes we’re the problem. And those experiences are usually our greatest teachers. Think of this as adulting confessions.

Sometimes, you have to let go of something good to let in something great. It’s easy to feel stuck in the choices we’ve made — the job we worked hard to get, the relationship we’ve invested in, the city we chose — but life is not linear, and it’s okay to change your mind.

Feeling your feelings can be really hard, but it's necessary for living a full life...and we can do hard things. This episode will help us learn to alchemize our emotions and, as today’s guest so perfectly says, “find the strength it takes to be soft.”

If we’ve learned anything along our adulting journey, it’s that change is the only constant in life. And today’s episode announces a BIG change that we’ve been sitting on. Grab your tissues, pour yourself something tasty, and get ready for an emotional rollercoaster as we say farewell to one half of our dynamic duo, and welcome in a new solo era of Teach Me How To Adult.

As born-and-raised (but recovering!) people pleasers, we have experienced first-hand how this habit can contribute to burnout, resentment, getting taken advantage of, and appeasing people who don’t respect our boundaries. But it’s time to break the cycle, because the key to happiness and success isn’t trying to please everyone… that’s actually the key to failure.

It becomes increasingly tough to keep in touch as we get older (seriously, has anyone in their 30s tried to plan a group hangout recently!?) but it’s extra hard if you’ve moved away. And add a different timezone in there? Good luck.

All of us have baggage, whether it’s from bad relationships, broken homes, friendship drama, or toxic work environments — and more often than not, these past traumas aren’t even our fault! But it’s still our job to manage how we allow these past problems to impact our relationships and experiences today.